We have had several issues like this with maids/chars/house cleaners. The first one we had came with the house, but was inept. The second one was awesome until she stole half a bottle of Jack Daniels. The current one doesn't float my boat but it's Philip's call to fire her as he pays her.
I take the view that you are the employer and he/she is the employee. As long as all shortcomings are pointed out and you've given them a decent chance to fix them/live up to your expectations then you have every right to fire them. We went with the "paying off" approach as well, I wouldn't trust a fired person in my house alone.
Also, there are lots of other ppl out there looking for work, who would do a better job. It's not your fault JacksonSon is a lazy slacker, you are not a charity. People have to _want_ to be helped and they have to _want_ to better themselves. There's definitely a culture amongst the younger black community that white people "owe" them something. Fuck that shit. Everyone has to work for what they want.
White guilt, do not want and do not believe in it.
Employers and employees
I take the view that you are the employer and he/she is the employee. As long as all shortcomings are pointed out and you've given them a decent chance to fix them/live up to your expectations then you have every right to fire them. We went with the "paying off" approach as well, I wouldn't trust a fired person in my house alone.
Also, there are lots of other ppl out there looking for work, who would do a better job. It's not your fault JacksonSon is a lazy slacker, you are not a charity. People have to _want_ to be helped and they have to _want_ to better themselves. There's definitely a culture amongst the younger black community that white people "owe" them something. Fuck that shit. Everyone has to work for what they want.
White guilt, do not want and do not believe in it.