I got over my Stupid Ex-Boyfriend Incidents (including violence, STDs, commitmentphobes, a miscarriage and an unexpected pregnancy--I frequently date douches...it's my thing) by engaging my competitive nature: if I let stupid ex-boyfriends continue to influence my life then they win. There can be no winning for ex-boyfriends. If the need to win doesn't work...imagining them be tortured by amazonians with pointy sticks, I hear that can also work. I hope your blood become more coperative with you and less so with itself...bad blood. Maybe more gin will help with the thinning ;-)