Ah, but you misunderstand. Skyrim gives you upgrades, but not true flexibility without the console. The Jarl's steward options do indeed give you, in most cases, decent furniture, most of the crafting stations and at least a couple of chests. What the console allows you to do is to delete the more irritating bits of decor (I hate all the animal heads), and to add, more or less wherever you want to put them, extra chests, barrels, bookshelves, any crafting stations the designers didn't bother with (my Breezeholm and Archmage quarters also have all the blacksmith stuff), shrines, cupboards, tables, chairs, etc etc etc. I can spend hours on it, patiently fiddling placement so it's exactly right. That's where the barrels halfway through a wall come in, the placement commands are not entirely intuitive. I do have some of the mods, but a couple of them crashed my game fairly consistently and I got a bit gun-shy.

I must cop to having made the "girly" comment entirely in the spirit of irony, so fair comment :>.